who this isn’t for
Most coaches don't have this page.
I think they should.
The reason is plain: not everyone who is curious about coaching is well-served by it. The work I do is specific, it has a shape, and it does some kinds of help well and other kinds of help rather ineffectively. I'd rather tell you the truth here than have us discover it a few sessions in.
If you want someone to tell you what to do
Some people come to coaching wanting answers. They want a plan, a recommendation, a framework, an opinion from someone with credentials. There is nothing wrong with wanting that — sometimes it's exactly what's needed.
It just isn't what I do.
I don't give advice. I don't make recommendations about the choices you're weighing. I don't tell you which job to take, which partner to leave or stay with, which path to choose, which boundary to set. I will help you do the thinking that leads you to those decisions; I will not make the decision for you.
If what you're looking for is someone to hand you the answer, you'll be better served by a consultant, a mentor in your specific field, or a friend whose judgment you trust and who is willing to weigh in. I will support you to find clarity — but I will not say what I'd do.
If you're being sent here by someone else
Coaching only works when you've chosen to be in the room.
I don't take clients who are coming to me because their employer requires it, because they're on a performance improvement plan, because a partner is making it a condition of the relationship, or because anyone else has decided this should happen for them.
This isn't about gatekeeping. It's structural. The work depends on you being honest with yourself, and that honesty is hard to access when you're checking a box for someone else. I've seen what coaching looks like when the client didn't volunteer; it produces theatre, not change.
If you've been encouraged to consider coaching by someone you trust and you're now exploring it of your own accord, that's different. The question isn't who suggested it. The question is whose engagement this actually is.
If you're in acute distress
I'm a coach, not a therapist.
That distinction matters. If you're in a moment of active crisis — suicidal thoughts, severe depression, debilitating anxiety, an active mental-health episode, the aftermath of trauma that's still raw — coaching isn't the right form of help, and I'm not the right person.
What you need is a clinician. A licensed therapist, a psychiatrist if medication is part of the picture, a crisis service if you're in immediate danger.
I am not equipped to do that work, and I won't pretend to be. If we talk and that's where you are, I'll tell you so directly and help you think about what kind of professional would actually fit.
If you're in immediate crisis right now: 988 (the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, US) is the right call.
If you want a diagnosis
Some questions need a clinician's eye on them. Why do I keep doing this? What's wrong with me? What does this say about my childhood? Is this depression? Is this neurodivergence?
These are real and important questions. They are also therapy questions, not coaching questions.
It is something I cannot do.
I won't interpret you. I won't tell you what your behavior means in terms of your past, your wiring, your diagnosis. If those are the questions you're carrying, a therapist or a psychologist is the right place to bring them.
Coaching can run alongside therapy — many of my clients are also in therapy, and the two work well in parallel. But the diagnostic work belongs in the therapy chair, not the coaching chair.
if this still
sounds like a fit
The next step is a free 30-minute conversation.
No commitment, no assessment, no homework.